Young people have carved out a new world of situationships, hook-ups, and nanoships, but the space to act on that sexual freedom keeps shrinking in India.
Situationships, with their lack of clarity and commitment, can be just as painful as traditional breakups. Emotional investment and ambiguity often lead to deep, unacknowledged grief.
Once your relationship enters the group chat with your besties, that’s when the ‘Tall Hinge Guy’, ‘Broke Noida Dude’, and ‘Mr Red Shoes’ finally get promoted to being mentioned by their actual names.
For a generation that doesn’t want to be defined as anything anymore, calling their new romantic liaison a ‘situationship’ only adds more confusion to the mix.
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Parents must modernise. Their insistence on their wards staying in college/university hostels is the crux of the issue. Hostels have very restrictive rules, even more so for women.
The urban middle class parents can obviously afford to let their wards stay in rented accommodation. The children can have ample scope for enjoying intimacy in the safe and secure space of their own rented flat.
Also, sex education must be made mandatory in schools. Children must be educated about safe sex practices.
College and university authorities must not act against students seeking intimacy. Rather they must act as facilitators for such students and assist them in finding safe spaces where they can enjoy intimacy.
Parents and teachers/professors must evolve with time. Instead of discouraging sex, they must encourage it. A starting point can be the removal of all CCTV cameras from college premises. This would ensure ample safe space for necking and canoodling, if not sex.
The best part of this article was the fact that the girl asked for sex. The Chattisgarh guy could not even manage to bring up the topic, but the girl took the initiative. Such bold and sexually liberated girls must be encouraged and praised. They will bring about a revolution in Indian society.
I can relate to Vikram’s experience.
I too had the privilege of renting a flat during college and therefore could enjoy life. Most of my friends used to have their rendezvous at my place. So much so that I earned quite a reputation at college. Unfortunately, some of them (or rather their partners) were in the habit of making loud sounds during “the act”. Neighbours, at times, used to get pissed.
Heartfelt thanks to the journalist for addressing this very serious issue.
I was in a relationship with my neighbouring aunty. She was married with two kids. It was really tough to get privacy. We would be yearning for days for some intimacy.
OYO was like a God sent for us. Ritesh Agarwal is an angel and I will always be thankful to him.
The government must mandate that every institution of higher education should have an on-campus “guest house”. Where students wanting to have sex can get a room at subsidised rates. This would ensure that those with very little pocket money can afford a private space to enjoy with their partners. Also, being on-campus and administered by the institute would guarantee safety and security. The “guest house” should ideally have a condom vending machine too and promote safe sex practices. This would also generate much needed revenue for the college/university.
The parents should open up their homes too. Why would they want their son or daughter to have sex in a dingy and unsafe OYO room? The parents can always accommodate their children and their sex partners in their own home. In fact, parents must encourage their children to come home with their partners and have a good time.
As has been commented by some others, this generation is hungry for intimacy and getting a safe and secure space to do it poses a serious challenge. The government, the college authorities and the parents should co-ordinate amongst themselves to create an environment where college/university students can get ample amount of intimacy in a safe and secure way.
Shameful indeed!
Ms. Sagarika Kissu interviews and quotes Prof. Nivedita Menon – an academic whose anti-Hindu and anti-India tirades are available on Youtube for everyone to see. Over the years Prof. Menon has been thoroughly exposed for what she truly is – a privileged hypocrite in an unrelenting quest for vilifying and denigrating Hindus. Her hatred for Hindus knows no bounds. Neither does her contempt for the Indian nation.
Menon can be best described as a Pakistani asset operating out of India.
We have mastered the art of traveling backwards. I am not sure how on earth a state could pass a law to make it mandatory to register if two adults choose to stay together. And no one seems to have any problem with it? How is this not an invasion of privacy? And how on earth can any hotel chain insist on proof of marriage? Why should it be anybody’s problem if one goes with one’s married partner or someone else?! The irony is we say 18 year olds are mature enough to choose the ones to lead the country but cant choose what they do with another consenting adult!
A pathetic society is what we seem to be becoming.
Parents must modernise. Their insistence on their wards staying in college/university hostels is the crux of the issue. Hostels have very restrictive rules, even more so for women.
The urban middle class parents can obviously afford to let their wards stay in rented accommodation. The children can have ample scope for enjoying intimacy in the safe and secure space of their own rented flat.
Also, sex education must be made mandatory in schools. Children must be educated about safe sex practices.
College and university authorities must not act against students seeking intimacy. Rather they must act as facilitators for such students and assist them in finding safe spaces where they can enjoy intimacy.
Parents and teachers/professors must evolve with time. Instead of discouraging sex, they must encourage it. A starting point can be the removal of all CCTV cameras from college premises. This would ensure ample safe space for necking and canoodling, if not sex.
The best part of this article was the fact that the girl asked for sex. The Chattisgarh guy could not even manage to bring up the topic, but the girl took the initiative. Such bold and sexually liberated girls must be encouraged and praised. They will bring about a revolution in Indian society.
I can relate to Vikram’s experience.
I too had the privilege of renting a flat during college and therefore could enjoy life. Most of my friends used to have their rendezvous at my place. So much so that I earned quite a reputation at college. Unfortunately, some of them (or rather their partners) were in the habit of making loud sounds during “the act”. Neighbours, at times, used to get pissed.
Heartfelt thanks to the journalist for addressing this very serious issue.
I was in a relationship with my neighbouring aunty. She was married with two kids. It was really tough to get privacy. We would be yearning for days for some intimacy.
OYO was like a God sent for us. Ritesh Agarwal is an angel and I will always be thankful to him.
The government must mandate that every institution of higher education should have an on-campus “guest house”. Where students wanting to have sex can get a room at subsidised rates. This would ensure that those with very little pocket money can afford a private space to enjoy with their partners. Also, being on-campus and administered by the institute would guarantee safety and security. The “guest house” should ideally have a condom vending machine too and promote safe sex practices. This would also generate much needed revenue for the college/university.
The parents should open up their homes too. Why would they want their son or daughter to have sex in a dingy and unsafe OYO room? The parents can always accommodate their children and their sex partners in their own home. In fact, parents must encourage their children to come home with their partners and have a good time.
As has been commented by some others, this generation is hungry for intimacy and getting a safe and secure space to do it poses a serious challenge. The government, the college authorities and the parents should co-ordinate amongst themselves to create an environment where college/university students can get ample amount of intimacy in a safe and secure way.
thank you for covering this topic
Thank you for covering this topic.
Shameful indeed!
Ms. Sagarika Kissu interviews and quotes Prof. Nivedita Menon – an academic whose anti-Hindu and anti-India tirades are available on Youtube for everyone to see. Over the years Prof. Menon has been thoroughly exposed for what she truly is – a privileged hypocrite in an unrelenting quest for vilifying and denigrating Hindus. Her hatred for Hindus knows no bounds. Neither does her contempt for the Indian nation.
Menon can be best described as a Pakistani asset operating out of India.
We have mastered the art of traveling backwards. I am not sure how on earth a state could pass a law to make it mandatory to register if two adults choose to stay together. And no one seems to have any problem with it? How is this not an invasion of privacy? And how on earth can any hotel chain insist on proof of marriage? Why should it be anybody’s problem if one goes with one’s married partner or someone else?! The irony is we say 18 year olds are mature enough to choose the ones to lead the country but cant choose what they do with another consenting adult!
A pathetic society is what we seem to be becoming.