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Dear dog lovers, people who fear dogs are not animal haters

I don’t pet dogs and I don't play with them, the only thing I do around them is freeze. But this doesn't mean that I am promoting animal cruelty.

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I have cynophobia, which reportedly affects 1 in 20 people. For those who do not know what it means or do not want to acknowledge it, cynophobia is the crippling fear of dogs and is a classified form of animal phobia. And it’s time dog-lovers stop trivializing our fears.

The extreme fear of dogs is just like the fear of spiders, cockroaches, lions or any other animal for that matter.

Cynophobia has extreme symptoms such as a rapid increase in heart rate, trouble breathing, anxiety, tightness in the chest and a feeling of terror, like your life could just end the very minute when you come in close proximity to a dog. 

But when you tell people who love dogs that you are scared of them, they are not only condescending in their tone toward you but also ridicule your reasoning.

“Don’t do this drama, it is just a dog”, that’s the most common taunt I have heard. I know that ‘It’s not a lion, it’s just a dog, but I am still scared of it. My fear may not match your standards of things that should instill fear, but it is real.

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Tyranny of dog lovers

Dog lovers’ constant rebuke is suffocating and frustrating for people like me. Being comfortable with dogs must be a beautiful feeling, but one must learn to be compassionate with people who have a hard time dealing with the fear.

The everyday life of a dog-fearing person is already difficult, and the lack of understanding only makes it worse. I keep a check if there are any neighbourhood dogs around whenever I step out of my home. Before I walk down my lane after work, after 10 pm, I take a deep breath and pray that the dogs don’t come after me.

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Stop looking at us like we are animal haters 

When I say “I am scared of dogs”, I don’t mean “I hate dogs”. Please understand the difference.

Whenever I visit someone who has a dog and I ask them to leash their pet, they often hit back at me with statements like, “He won’t do anything, he is a poor little creature” or “Come on, don’t treat him like that. I can’t begin to explain how horrible these snide remarks make me feel. Don’t call me an emotionless person just because I asked you to leash a dog or not call on strays when I am around.

Dog owners and dog lovers need to learn how to distinguish between animal haters and people who fear them. I don’t pet or play with dogs, but this doesn’t mean that I promote animal cruelty.

At a friend’s birthday party, I remember how every ‘dog loving’ guest lectured me on how dogs are loyal and loving and how cruel I am for not giving them attention. Now this dog was barking its lungs out, had bitten around 20 people so far and almost everyday leaves its tooth mark on the owner’s body, even for things like giving him a bath (the owner told me this). I asked my friend to accompany me to the washroom and when the dog ran after me, I shuddered, to which she said: “You won’t die if he bites you”. I was pained. Do I really need to get bitten by a dog to prove that I am not an animal hater?

In fact, when I move away from strays, people around me get unnecessarily emotional as if I have violated ‘animal rights’ and pass remarks such as: “How can she behave like this, it’s just an animal!” or “Don’t be mean to animals, they are cute”. I am not advocating brutality against them like the movement in Kerala where people killed stray dogs to ensure public safety or like in Uttar Pradesh where villagers in Sitapur district killed street dogs in retaliation to children dying from dog attacks.

I am not cruel, I even like to see, watch and admire dogs from a distance. But you as a dog lover, surely your empathy should extend to us too.

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Note to dog owners

Dog owners consider their pets as their children. But when you don’t impose your children on our guests or force them to love and play them, then why impose the dog? When you can see that I am petrified of your dog, isn’t it too much to ask me to let it sniff and lick me for a few minutes?

What’s worse, the pet is sometimes an ultra-friendly dog and pounces on you the moment you enter. Shouldn’t the dog owner take responsibility? Stop telling us things such as “Pet him, he will be fine, he will like you”. I can’t just pet your dog when my anxiety has just shot up. You don’t ask me to pet your baby, do you? And then they even say: “Dogs can sense your heartbeat, don’t react like that!” You can’t control the dog, you can’t keep it at a distance, but you want me to control my fear?

A dog owner might be right about “he doesn’t bite” 90 per cent of the time, but this doesn’t make my situation better.

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Dog lovers without responsibility 

The most radical dog lovers are the stray dog lovers. Now, if you ever ask them to not feed the strays near your home or office, they react so badly. They are serious animal rights activists and they pour scorn on you. Surely, it won’t make any difference if you feed the stray dogs a few feet away where there are no people.

Most of these ‘dog lovers’ do not take any responsibility for stray dogs apart from just feeding them leftovers. They don’t neuter them or even vaccinate them.

Forget strays, in India, dog owners don’t even think it is their job to pick up the poop from the streets and parks when they take their pets out on a walk.

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  1. Thank you! Animal lovers expect EVERYONE to love them. I don’t love them because I fear them…not by choice of course. Only people who have this fear can relate and understand. What bugs me is neighbors not keeping their dogs under their control or on a leash and let them chase me around my yard and even runs into my garage and house. Very disrespectful. We have fear of dogs and cope with living with neighbors with dogs…yet, most of them expect us to get over the fear and just love their dogs. I disagree. They need to cope with us by simply keeping their dogs away from others if it’s not welcome.

  2. I read through this option piece to try and better understand my friend who has cynaphobia… I don’t think it helped. I have a dog that is such an important part of my mental health and well-being. He is my companion, he makes me feel safe when I’m outside, he helps me never feel alone, and I love him. So when I see my friend terrified, I would never say anything to dismiss her fear, and I always keep my dog away from her, but it really pains me to see my friend who I love be so afraid of this innocent little dog that I love. Also some of the comments here are repulsive, dogs can be a very important part of a person’s life and your judgement is so horrible to witness. I just think there needs to be better discussion for both sides.

  3. More than the dogs, I hate dog lovers! Those idiots are practically human haters. They value dogs more than human being and are thus insensitive towards human safety and values. They have just no sense of cleanliness as well. If they would have, then they would bever touch a dog. I deep study reveals that dog lovers (mis) behave like dogs, after heving their company for long. Stray dog menace is perhaps biggest in India and our stupid leaders and their slave judges are increasing this menace daya by day, which is leading to the killing of more than 20000 people every year and millions of suffering by dog bites and accidents!!

    • I would like to comment, how sad people can be.
      Dogs give blind people a life, smell out drugs at
      Airports that kill young lives. On the frontline with
      Police to catch people that kill. So dog haters
      Dogs may on day save you or your children.
      You think they are dirty? A lot of humans are
      Dirtier by a long shot.

    • Dog haters are evil violant animal haters. They no love for animals and are more likely to have a serious mental disorder. No offense to dog haters do not like them your not a human being animal hater.

  4. I thank Ms. Taskin for this piece. I feel like this is the first time someone has talked seriously about what I go through every time I’m in close proximity to a dog. And the author is totally right in saying that there is a frustrating tendency of condescension and trivialization in dog-lovers that makes me livid. In this regard, I just remembered an episode from the hit sitcom “Friends” where Chandler claims that he is allergic to dogs and all the rest start ragging on him. I remember I was really mad the first time I saw the episode.

  5. I fear dogs, they disgust me, AND hate them. This doesn’t mean I harm them, but if every dog suddenly succumbed to the Coronavirus I’d really celebrate. They represent filth and chaos and they contribute nothing to the world except to the weird people who can’t form human bonds and mistake for “unconditional love” the fact that their dog sticks around because they feed it. Dogs killed ten or so children in 2019 including infants. People who worship dogs have a mental illness. I don’t understand it, but I know that given enough time, one day it will be explained. There can be no civilized society that allows dogs to menace people the way they do today.

    • I literally didn’t like you commenting on dog owners not picking up their dogs poop . Because u might have a toilet at home to sit and shit. And this your shit us obviously stored in a septic tank which is ofcourse being picked up by others . And your fear towards dogs should be lessened . Let me help u , u should go to a friend’s house whose dog is friendly . Try to be less scared of dogs when u are near it even if u feel your heart is gonna explode . Try to be calm with it everytime u see a dog . Don’t panic . As days pass you will definitely be able to understand them n dogs will understand u too.

    • Filthy beast in human form. I bet you will definitely turn into a criminal in the future. I hope u die of corona . I probably think u are psychopath. U can’t understand animal, how will u understand a human . I pray for you and your ill mind . God bless u with dogs love

      • Psychopaths love more dogs than cats according to the studies. Also psychopaths can’t fear dogs since they have greatly lowered fear response in general.

  6. Its good that Ms.Taskin has brought this up, Though I have no phobia about dogs,I can’t understand people feeding stray dogs thinking they are doing some Noble deed.When we ask them not to do that, dog lover’s react as though we are heartless monsters. Feeding strays has led to an explosion in their number.Straw dogs are not merely to nuisance they cause serious problems from bites leading to rabies to even attacking children in packs.

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