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YourTurnSubscriberWrites: Socialising by Retirees in a foreign land

SubscriberWrites: Socialising by Retirees in a foreign land

In Portland, Indian retirees turned park meet-ups into a vibrant community—sharing tea, jokes, and camaraderie that ease life away from home and spark lasting friendships.

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Abbas K. Sutarwala, September, 2025

“Teach only Love for that is what you are.” 
– A Course in Miracles

Overview

Many retirees visit or live in foreign lands.  They go there to be close to their children and grand-children.  During week-days, most of their family members are busy at work or in school leaving the retirees alone without any work or familiar pastimes.  I have been visiting Portland, Oregon, USA, almost yearly, since 2016, for a few weeks, sometimes months, to be with my son and his family.  There my wife and I found an interesting socialising ritual to add more joy to our stay!  I am describing the same below.

India @ Portland

We, retirees, men and women, meet daily at a park.  We sit on benches, do gup-shup, have tea and biscuits, and enjoy camaraderie.  Sometimes, there is music, singing, jokes, a tutorial on a specific topic, etc.  The time is 10:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m. but everyone is free to come and go at will.  Participants volunteer to bring the tea and biscuits each day; all slots are taken up!

All are Indians, from different regions and culture.  Of course, discussion on politics is a “no-no”.  Usually, about 25 people meet on the benches.  An occasional pot-luck lunch increases the gathering to 75!

The atmosphere is joyous and uplifting. Everyone mingles with everyone with smiles and kindness.  It is a good “social tonic” for people “out of their familiar territory”!

I am attaching a photo of the group taken, when I was there, on September 4, 2025.  The only young person you see, in the front row, is my daughter, Anjum, who was visiting me and I took her to meet my “friends” 😊

How this started

One man can make a difference and every man must try!
– John F. Kennedy

About 9 years back, I was visiting my son, Anees.  Very close to Anees’s home is a beautiful park which my wife and I would go daily for walks and entertaining my grand-son, about 3 years old.  There, in 2017, I met Shamsher Singh, a very friendly person.  He stayed in Portland for long periods.  He and a good friend of his, met daily there, from 10:30 to noon.  I joined them occasionally.  Soon two other couples joined.  Daily, Shamsher Singh and his wife would get tea in a thermos for all of us!  Some of us started bringing biscuits and we found it a very enjoyable pastime!  Shamsher Singh formed a WhatsApp group with the name of “India @ Portland”. 

The small group of about 10 has now blossomed to about 75!

I feel I socialise more in Portland than in Pune where I live!

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