Soon this will get ad nauseum… if it has not gotten already. Experience tells me that for every woman who has encountered the early symtoms of a scenario of this sort and quit the scene, there are several who are wired to use or exploit that experience… honesty is the best policy ok.
Clearly not insisting that “no is no” is not right. If we need to stop the patriarchal treatment the lesson should begin at home… insist and make sure the arranged marriage does not happen, get a job on grounds of merit, strike your growth path, accept singlitude, build friendship with like minded…
Do your favourite things… don’t just eat and drink…
The best way out is to say “no” when you don’t like it… and say “yes” when you do… c’mon you dont have to be a stick in the mud. But being decisive about your personal-self is a thing to be learnt at home… taught by example and not by lecturing…
Ma’am – Appreciate your candidness on sharing he #MeToo moment despite the fact that its three decades old. I used to work in PTI those days and knew of several such instances though the victims kept quiet due to lack of law and social media. Today they may have brushed it under the carpet. The fact remains that even a quick recall makes them feel low and this feeling has consistently stopped them from seeking their professional goals because of the fear of a repeat from another lech lurking in some corner office. I request that you seek some professional advice to remove the wound though the scar will never go. But that’s okay as the scar reminds us to be aware of creeps while the wound wells up feelings that restricts our freedom in life. God bless you and all those who feel low because the man forgets that a woman is much more stronger than him in mind.
Unsolicited lust, just like oppression, is a primeval instinct, and from the perspective of human rights (that each one of us craves for, whether it is a man or a woman), it is not acceptable. For this reason alone, it must not only be discouraged, but eliminated through institutional and legal means. This on-going turmoil is likely to be a powerful game changer, very similar to the fight for the end of slavery and apartheid. As a result, hopefully people, especially men, will evolve into improved human beings with greater self-control, and organisations will become safer working places with higher degree of empathy.
Soon this will get ad nauseum… if it has not gotten already. Experience tells me that for every woman who has encountered the early symtoms of a scenario of this sort and quit the scene, there are several who are wired to use or exploit that experience… honesty is the best policy ok.
Clearly not insisting that “no is no” is not right. If we need to stop the patriarchal treatment the lesson should begin at home… insist and make sure the arranged marriage does not happen, get a job on grounds of merit, strike your growth path, accept singlitude, build friendship with like minded…
Do your favourite things… don’t just eat and drink…
The best way out is to say “no” when you don’t like it… and say “yes” when you do… c’mon you dont have to be a stick in the mud. But being decisive about your personal-self is a thing to be learnt at home… taught by example and not by lecturing…
Ma’am – Appreciate your candidness on sharing he #MeToo moment despite the fact that its three decades old. I used to work in PTI those days and knew of several such instances though the victims kept quiet due to lack of law and social media. Today they may have brushed it under the carpet. The fact remains that even a quick recall makes them feel low and this feeling has consistently stopped them from seeking their professional goals because of the fear of a repeat from another lech lurking in some corner office. I request that you seek some professional advice to remove the wound though the scar will never go. But that’s okay as the scar reminds us to be aware of creeps while the wound wells up feelings that restricts our freedom in life. God bless you and all those who feel low because the man forgets that a woman is much more stronger than him in mind.
Unsolicited lust, just like oppression, is a primeval instinct, and from the perspective of human rights (that each one of us craves for, whether it is a man or a woman), it is not acceptable. For this reason alone, it must not only be discouraged, but eliminated through institutional and legal means. This on-going turmoil is likely to be a powerful game changer, very similar to the fight for the end of slavery and apartheid. As a result, hopefully people, especially men, will evolve into improved human beings with greater self-control, and organisations will become safer working places with higher degree of empathy.