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It is an open reality that Indian Marriage Laws are biased in favour of women.
Because they are biased, misuse WILL happen and DOES happens continuously.
This is not some innocent, low intensity misuse, it destroys men’s lives completely – loss of jobs, loss of self-esteem, loss of purpose in life, often leading to suicides as well – THIS CANNOT BE ACCEPTED – no matter which side of the debate you sit on. Very often this happens to men who are perfectly supportive of the progress of the women in their lives, but this support leads to a misplaced sense of DOMINANCE & CONTROL with the woman, who starts using this status to subdue the man, instead of sharing responsibilities and duties.
By all means, let’s fight injustices to women, BUT NOT AT THE COST OF MEN’S LIVES and not by using/abusing them for money, jewelry, property, assets, and not by making them disposable.
The argument that because women were/are oppressed therefore such laws should continue at the cost of men’s life is fallacious.
The laws seemingly meant for protecting women, have in fact, become the cause of break down of marriages and divorces.
The reason is simple – women (especially, educated ones who have the means to earn) – see the laws as an easy tool to threaten & control men in marriages – from casual/humorous/veiled threats to outright “police mein complaint kar doongi” – these are now VERY VERY COMMON SCENARIOS in Indian households – it is not the stuff of TV soap operas – it gets played out for real every day in millions of Indian households. Women will try and brush this fact under the carpet.
Is this empowerment?
Women thinking just for themselves and their own progress at the cost of men? At the cost of a family? What possible values would such a woman be able to pass on to the kids? What view of the world & relationships will these kids grow up with?
The current generations will still remember the love and warmth of their large/extended Indian families. Funnily, most of these ‘feminists’ have enjoyed it too, but how many of them try and re-create that same warmth and bonding of a close knit, inclusive family in their own households? When it comes to them, they feel threatened & restricted by their in-laws, feel threatened by the man’s extended circle of family & friends and are constantly thinking of what everyone can do for them – “I, me and myself” – the entitlement culture. Why? Because I’m a woman.
We’re all first humans contributing to the progress of a larger society. Feminists unfortunately think the society is just them and all they are bothered about is themselves. Men aren’t a part of their society – or if they are, it’s only the ones who bow to their dominance.
If we are to save ourselves as a society, the dialogue urgently needs to change from men vs women to joint responsibilities. From women empowerment to family empowerment. The discussion has to start from duties & responsibilities and not rights & privileges (for both genders). So, if women don’t want to enter the kitchen, who will? If it is the man, have they discussed and agreed how they will run a household? Will the woman earn & financially run the full household? Will they divide responsibilities, if so how? Who will do what? Where is the space to have these discussions? None. Most women back out of these discussions by saying – what I earn is mine, what the man earns is for the family and now lets get an army of maids and helpers to manage the household & kids – because I’m liberated & empowered. What kind of a marriage is that?
It is an open reality that Indian Marriage Laws are biased in favour of women.
Because they are biased, misuse WILL happen and DOES happens continuously.
This is not some innocent, low intensity misuse, it destroys men’s lives completely – loss of jobs, loss of self-esteem, loss of purpose in life, often leading to suicides as well – THIS CANNOT BE ACCEPTED – no matter which side of the debate you sit on. Very often this happens to men who are perfectly supportive of the progress of the women in their lives, but this support leads to a misplaced sense of DOMINANCE & CONTROL with the woman, who starts using this status to subdue the man, instead of sharing responsibilities and duties.
By all means, let’s fight injustices to women, BUT NOT AT THE COST OF MEN’S LIVES and not by using/abusing them for money, jewelry, property, assets, and not by making them disposable.
The argument that because women were/are oppressed therefore such laws should continue at the cost of men’s life is fallacious.
The laws seemingly meant for protecting women, have in fact, become the cause of break down of marriages and divorces.
The reason is simple – women (especially, educated ones who have the means to earn) – see the laws as an easy tool to threaten & control men in marriages – from casual/humorous/veiled threats to outright “police mein complaint kar doongi” – these are now VERY VERY COMMON SCENARIOS in Indian households – it is not the stuff of TV soap operas – it gets played out for real every day in millions of Indian households. Women will try and brush this fact under the carpet.
Is this empowerment?
Women thinking just for themselves and their own progress at the cost of men? At the cost of a family? What possible values would such a woman be able to pass on to the kids? What view of the world & relationships will these kids grow up with?
The current generations will still remember the love and warmth of their large/extended Indian families. Funnily, most of these ‘feminists’ have enjoyed it too, but how many of them try and re-create that same warmth and bonding of a close knit, inclusive family in their own households? When it comes to them, they feel threatened & restricted by their in-laws, feel threatened by the man’s extended circle of family & friends and are constantly thinking of what everyone can do for them – “I, me and myself” – the entitlement culture. Why? Because I’m a woman.
We’re all first humans contributing to the progress of a larger society. Feminists unfortunately think the society is just them and all they are bothered about is themselves. Men aren’t a part of their society – or if they are, it’s only the ones who bow to their dominance.
If we are to save ourselves as a society, the dialogue urgently needs to change from men vs women to joint responsibilities. From women empowerment to family empowerment. The discussion has to start from duties & responsibilities and not rights & privileges (for both genders). So, if women don’t want to enter the kitchen, who will? If it is the man, have they discussed and agreed how they will run a household? Will the woman earn & financially run the full household? Will they divide responsibilities, if so how? Who will do what? Where is the space to have these discussions? None. Most women back out of these discussions by saying – what I earn is mine, what the man earns is for the family and now lets get an army of maids and helpers to manage the household & kids – because I’m liberated & empowered. What kind of a marriage is that?